Thursday, January 8, 2009

Be Kind in 09

That was the message this week at church. I have to say I am struggling...I don't like stupid people. I know I know I am sure you are saying to yourself...who are you to judge who is stupid and who isn't....and Jill how do you know that you are not one of the stupid ones?

I guess I just need to learn to understand people are who they are and that it's not my place to judge them or try to improve them, when they really are just who they are. Am I making sense?

For example, there is a woman who has worked at the Navy Exchange since I was pregnant with my 17 year old. My first experience with her was in the old flower shop. It took her 35 minutes to put together a floral arrangement that included 4 carnations, some baby's breath, and some greenery. In this time the line formed and went out the door. It took me 55 minutes to reach the counter and pay for my purchase...all while standing on very swollen pregnant lady feet.

Next they moved her to the registers in the main sanctuary. That did not fair well either, I got caught in her line once and that was the last time that happened....they eventually caught on that positions that required speed were not for now she stocks the shelves. I am sure she is a wonderful lady that has children and grandchildren who love her I can't deal with her...that's on me I guess. Maybe speed is not important to her, maybe she has challenges that I no nothing about.

The there are those people who you have never met on message boards whose necks you'd like to wring...the know it alls, the hoity toity ones, and the one who always has to pick a fight or be the negative nellie. Why do I let these people get to me? It is my choice to allow their ignorance to frustrate me...I have no one to blame but bad!

I need to take a deep breath and figure out why I let these people bother me and then fix myself rather than them!


Melinda said...

Ok, so I read the last part and said "Lord, please don't let her be talking about me..."

I'm not a patient person at all, but I try to temper it with lots and lots of good humor. I don't know if it works or not but I try

Jill AKA busymom said...

No worries Melinda its not you:) You are one of the easy people to be kind too:)